"So why then is it that you've tried changing your thoughts, you've tried positive affirmations, but you still feel unhappy and dissatisfied a lot of the time, and maybe even anxious?" - Tonia Winchester

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Your positive affirmations won't give you the joy you're looking for.

I'm totally in tune with the notion that saying positive things to ourselves is going to be this magical gateway to this land of unequivocal joy and positivity.

But the problem is saying things like I'm joyful or I'm constantly in a happy mood are not going to get you the happiness that you're looking for.

It makes a lot of sense why we would think that. Just put a happy face on today, think good thoughts, and talk positively to yourself.

And if you're smoking those unicorn toots, then think of it this way.

A positive affirmation is like moving the rug or the furniture to cover up a stain on the floor. And maybe you've totally done that, like we'll just move this right over here. No one will notice, right? Like bingo bango bongo, problem solved, right?

Out of sight, out of mind, all of that jazz. But you know it's still there.

You know what's going on underneath that piece of furniture or that very cute rug. At best, it's covering up the problem and not solving it.

And this little home decor trick is no different than pasting happy thoughts all over your frustration, irritability, dissatisfaction, and lack of fulfillment.

We're given that message a lot, right? Just think about something else. Think happy thoughts. Why don't you try positive affirmations? It seems logical enough, right?

So why then is it that you've tried changing your thoughts, you've tried positive affirmations, but you still feel unhappy and dissatisfied a lot of the time, and maybe even anxious?

And if you've tried affirmations, you know exactly what I'm talking about. And it's kind of like they add insult to injury.

They can be aggravating because they're going against what you actually feel. And so now not only are you unhappy, but you're lying to yourself.

And I'm just thinking, come on now, there has to be a better way.

So how do you shift your emotional state once and for all?

And I say once and for all because there are ways of improving our mood short term. I mean if I had you stop watching this video right now and google cute puppies or whatever your favorite animal of choice is, most likely your emotional state would shift.

Now I don't want you to go do that because if you're here reading this article.

Likely that's because you want to feel happy and more joy. And you're looking for a more permanent solution, aren't you?

Well, you know, the first step is actually to realize that the cause of your unhappiness is not what you probably think it is.

It's not the parenting fights that you're having with your spouse. It's not the bullying coworker. It's not the micromanaging boss.

And it's not even the meddling passive-aggressive mother-in-law. Even these things seem to be triggering your unhappiness.

They're not actually what's behind it. It's kind of like when the oil light goes on in your car. It's not glaring at you from the dashboard just to be a nuisance. Just like these people are not the ones making you unhappy.

The oil light is on because either the oil is low or dirty. And it either needs to be topped up or changed. The thing that's in the way of you and your pursuit of happiness is likely an old subconscious belief that is telling you without your conscious awareness or consent that happiness is not on the table for you.

Just like the oil, that old belief needs to be topped up or changed so that you can reset yourself to the divine factory setting of happiness.

And you know what I mean because when you see babies their default is joy. So you have to look under the hood, pull out that dipstick, determine what needs to shift. Do you need to change the oil or do you need to just top it up?

Do you need to create new beliefs or simply just modify the ones that are already there?

Both of these things are 100% possible. And what I would challenge you to do after watching this video is really look at your life and dig in deeper to really figure out what is it that's actually causing your unhappiness.

You have to work at the subconscious level with the subconscious mind to really access the blocks that are preventing you from feeling the joy that you're looking for.

So going back to the rug analogy, if we just cover up the stain on the floor, we haven't actually fixed the problem, right?

Piling on positive statements and happy thoughts is not actually going to solve the problem.

If you want to keep pasting on a happy face and telling yourself that you're happy, that's fine. But please don't expect that your feelings are actually going to change and those changes are actually going to be real.

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